#SquadGoals: What our young women seafarers can learn from Sushmita, Swift and Sisa



When Sushmita Sen of India verbalized this statement she eventually won Miss Universe in 1994.

Just being a woman is God’s gift that all of us must appreciate. The origin of a child is a mother, and is a woman. She shows a man what sharing, caring and loving is all about. That is the essence of a woman.

Ironically, when Sisa, the young sailor, sung a famous Beyoncé song in the shower, she almost lost her mind.

If I were a boy
I think I could understand
how it feels to love a girl
I swear I’d be a better man.
I’d listen to her
‘Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
‘Cause he’s taken you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed..

Sisa has been working at sea for almost 3 months now. Few more months, she’ll be home and would be on the arms of her beloved ones again, most especially with the love of her ultimate bae.

Basilyo or bae for short is Sisa’s boyfriend. He used to be hot, sweet and caring – the perfect match for a girl to keep forever. For him to finally marry Sisa however, he wants her to be Miss Universe, lest a Binibining Pilipinas qualifier. But Sisa’s vital statistics is 39-30-49. Every time she looks herself in the mirror, her reflection screams – “Call 9-1-1!”.

To be fair at least with her, bae has to say she is looking good and more importantly, she’s healthy. It made him a good lover before he finally walked away out of her life.

Unfortunately, it was not only Bae murdering Sisa’s already torn heart. There were crewmates named Calye West and Christopher Brown too.

Calye is her immediate superior. He is fun and very supportive. She even considered him as the wind beneath her wings for every time she commits mistakes, he steals the mic from her and starts to rap (or in simple words, he quickly forgives her shortcomings).

If there’s one reason why she hates him however, it’s the guy’s offensive remark. One night, she heard a fellow crew asking Calye what was his role on Sisa’s career growth. The guy ruthlessly answered, “I make that b**tch famous!”

Meanwhile, Christopher is the secret sexist lover. Before his eyes, Sisa always shines bright like diamonds. But the seawoman is not attracted to him. He might found love in a hopeless place but he’s not giving-up. In one way or the other, he believes Sisa would be sleeping beside him in one bed so he kept pawning on her like she’s the only girl in the world.

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Bum bum be bum bum bum be bum bum..with various challenges and difficult personalities lurking around, Sisa is apparently suffering alike Riri’s disturbia!

Should Sisa give-up or continue chasing pavements?

She’s on the big crossroads of her life.

She can’t keep running on empty dreams. 😦

To all seawomen feeling like Sisa out there, cheer-up! The best has yet to come. You just need to declutter your life, be yourself and never underestimate your potentials.

Related Reading: Ten ‘Wonder’ Women seafarers

Remember, Taylor Swift’s words and I quote,

…I want to say to the young woman out there, there are going to be people along the way who try to undercut your success or take credit for your accomplishments or your fame. But if you just focus on the work and you don’t let those people sidetrack you, someday when you get where you’re going, you will look around and you will know it was you and the people who love you who put you there, and that will be the greatest feeling in the world.

All right.. I hope you see sparks fly now?

Aside from Sen and Swift, I would like to include here what Ms. Ethel R. Capellan, a faculty member of Maritime Academy of Asia and the Pacific, has recommended on her research study entitled ‘ Problems Encountered by Women Seafarers On Board Ships as Perceived by MAAP Midshipwomen: Its Implications to MET Innovations.’

Here’s what the academic author wants you to know, ladies!

– Plan what to do, do what you plan.

 “Set priorities that reflect balanced life goals to be successful in both personal and professional lives.”

– If you can’t beat them, be one of them.

 “Accept the fact that for better or worse, women are going to be operating in a male culture where men make the rules and therefore they need to learn and play the game by the man’s rules.”

– Expectation vs reality. Choose wisely

“Decide whether you really want to become a part of it all. If you do not like the business game, you have two choices. Either you find something else to devote your energies or you play the game until you have enough power to change some of the goals or rules. It is important to deal with realities.”

– Be confidently and competently beautiful inside-out.

“Win, discover what it takes to be a woman in a man’s world and succeed through education, knowledge, experience and basic charm.”

Know your strengths, develop your weaknesses.

 “Support yourselves by playing up your strengths – like being nurturing, empathetic, supportive, accommodating, good listeners and coaching workers – while also adding complementary behaviors.”

– Act like a woman, think like a man

“Develop some typically “male strengths or assets “to be recognized or be promoted, but retain the valuable female characteristics. Use both assets appropriately and wisely. Bearing in mind that some strengths, which are typically very feminine, could be asset amidst man’s world in the maritime if these are utilized appropriately.”

 – And finally, #DoitLikeSushmita at the rightmost time and place

“(Women) can give birth which men biologically cannot and therefore, can do or accomplish anything that a man can do if only a woman is interested, committed and determined.”


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